I’d like to share with you my story (so far).
How I got into coaching was NOT a direct path. In fact, if you told me two years ago that I’d be spending my time meaningfully connecting with people and helping them transform their lives, I would have replied, “Sounds great, but is that really a job?” I would have then politely smiled and returned to wondering what the hell I was supposed to do with my life.
Back then, my life on paper looked great. Steady employment, side business, fun vacations, home ownership and an awesome partner. There wasn’t anything really wrong. I had it pretty good.
But on the inside, I felt like I was floundering instead of flourishing. Somehow, despite my best intentions, I found myself stuck, with no idea where to go. I frequently thought about quitting my job. But, then what? I had no idea what I wanted. It was pretty tough making decisions when everything seemed uncertain.
In short, I was lost, numb and shut down. I didn’t know what to do differently to help myself but I knew I needed to figure it out.
I was scared, too. Scared of making the wrong move. Scared of jeopardizing something comfortable for an unknown. You know what scared me the most? The thought of waking up 10 years later, feeling even more trapped and stuck and regretting that I didn’t do something about it sooner.
So, I quit my job and launched myself into what I thought would be a quick and easy journey of self-discovery, on my way to an awesome and new career full of passion.
Let’s get real here. Yes, I did end up in a new career that I love. But the journey? Some days/weeks/months, it was fucking hard. I had to learn to feel again. I had to get to know myself better by giving a lot of time, space and thought into who I actually was and what I wanted my life to be. I had to reprogram a lot of old habits and negative thinking.
I gave myself permission to take chances. I traded concrete outcomes for experiences. I met amazing people and took part is some fantastic programs that showed me the life I wanted was possible.
I also made plenty of mistakes. On more than one occasion, I found myself on the edge of my bed, rocking back and forth saying over and over, “I have no idea what I’m doing.” Sometimes, I felt really alone. Other days, I missed my steady paycheque because, like you, I lived with the realities of a material world.
Through all this, I believed deep down that if I aligned myself to the person I’m meant to be and to bring forth my unique gifts and experience to the world, it would all work out. I was all in. I couldn’t go back. I had to try and I wanted no regrets.
“Our job in this lifetime is not to shape ourselves into some ideal we imagine we ought to be, but to find out who we already are and become it.”Steven PressfieldSo, how did I become a coach? It was through a contract project that I began to learn about coaching. I had some pre-conceived (and incorrect) notions of what being a coach meant and it took a bit of time for me to get through that. I also needed to get over the idea that I wasn’t good enough to offer support to someone else. Coaching isn’t about living a perfect life and telling other people what to do. It’s about being human, and using a certain set of skills to support others in being with their own humanness in a way that serves them best.
I studied at Integral Coaching Canada and as I immersed myself in the program, I broke myself wide open. Along with helping others on their journey, I received the wonderful gift of my own deep, personal development.
I now find myself in a place with a lot of clarity and aliveness. I know what I want my life to be. There was no magic pill or a 10-step how-to. I simply needed to figure it out, in my own way, on my own time, with experience and support.
I believe the world would be a better place if more people became clear on what truly matters to them and to take meaningful action to align themselves to it. My wish is for everyone to have the opportunity to live a life that’s aligned to who they’re meant to be, and to not have to do it alone. I want others to be supported and connected as they walk their own path.
And that’s what I’m here to do. In whatever form it takes, my life’s work is to support others on their own journey of discovery, to live a life full of meaning, purpose and joy.